But You Don’t Homeschool Yet…

Check out my first post over at So You Call Yourself a Homeschooler!

Recently, I was sharing my news about becoming a contributing writer for this blog with a very close relative (whom I promised would remain nameless). I had just received my writing themes and was sharing my excitement about this new endeavor. To which he incredulously replied, “But you don’t homeschool yet.”

After I picked my jaw and my ego up off the floor, I sat quietly for a few minutes thinking about this statement. Stewing over it was more like it.

Then….an EPIPHANY!


Patience is a Virtue

My children love to help…with everything…with anything.

Well, except for cleaning up their own toys, but I’m pretty sure that’s normal.

Helping makes them feel good. It makes them feel….important.

Sometimes they are actually helpful, but most times, it just makes things….harder.

They WANT to help with the dishes.

They WANT to help with the laundry.

They WANT to help sweep the floors.

They WANT to help with the cooking.

But as any mom with a 2 or 3 year old knows, when they help…

Dishes get broken.

Laundry has to be RE-folded.

Floors have to be swept again.

Food gets spilled.

And so on.

In short, it takes more time. More time than it takes for me to do it myself. And time is not something I always have a lot of. If I’m doing housework, it’s usually in a hurry.

Not to mention I like it done a certain way. My way.

But I’m learning to be patient.

Well, I’m trying to learn to be patient.

Because I do NOT want lazy kids who become lazy adults.

I DO believe caring for the home should be a family effort.

I DO believe the responsibility learned from helping at home is just as important as any thing else they will learn here.

And one day, each of my girls is going to grow up and run her own home.

I don’t want her to fall apart in tears the first time she tries to make scrambled eggs for her husband because she doesn’t really know how.

…..like I did.

I want my girls to be prepared, and it’s my job to teach them. Starting now. This may be one of the most important parts of their “home education.”

So, I’m working on it. Little by little, I’m loosening up. Learning that it doesn’t always have to be done my way. That it’s worth a little messiness and an extra 10 minutes. If it means my girls are learning something….or even if they’re just making memories, it’s worth it.

They wanted to help with the dishes so bad this morning, but I refused because I was in a hurry. It would take too long.

Thankfully, God revealed this lesson to me in the shower. (Isn’t that where He speaks to you?!) So when my oldest asked to help me change the sheets on my bed and make it, I let her. It may have taken a little longer, but it made her happy. Proud even. Not the bad kind of pride, but the sense of pride found in a job well done. The sense of pride found in helping out and being a part of the household.

It’s important to them. It’s important for them. It needs to be important to me.

Important enough to take the time….

….and be patient.

I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, entreat you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing forbearance to one another in love. ~ Ephesians 4:1-2

(On a side note, it was NOT entirely my mother’s fault that I didn’t know how to scramble eggs. She tried to teach me to cook. I just wouldn’t stay in the kitchen. Love you, mom!)


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I’ve moved and I’m back!

Hello all! Living With Grace and Joy has moved here and is now “Fully Mothering”….as you can see.

My family has entered a new chapter in our lives, and it has given me a renewed vision for blogging. I feel as though I really have something to say now. Well, I’ve always had something to say, but now I have something worthwhile to talk about.

With the birth of our precious little Hope and everything that followed, I feel there needs to be a record for her, for me, for another mother someday, somewhere going through similar difficulties.

That being sad, be warned that you can expect honesty. What we’re dealing with is real. Real life. Real hard. I’m not going to mince words. I’m going to tell you how I really feel, what I’m really going through, so that 1) others can gain just a little bit of understanding of what this really feels like, and 2) some day when another parent dealing with a child with special needs reads this, they will know that what they are feeling isn’t new. They aren’t a horrible person for feeling that way. That someone else has been there.

This isn’t going to be a place to just tell all my happy stories and make everyone think I’m amazingly perfect and I’ve got everything under control. I’m not. I’m not the Super Mom everyone thinks I am. You’re going to get to know the real me.

Of course, that isn’t all this blog is about. I’ll be sharing all kinds of things about mothering, homemaking, homeschooling, even some organization tips. I hope you hang around. I’d love for you to get to know me and my family. You’ll get to know my little girls, Grace – age 3, Joy – almost 2, and Hope – 3 mos old. They are a wonderful blessing, and they are daily teaching me to be graceful, joyful and hopeful. That’s really what this journey is all about – experiencing motherhood…fully. All the ups. All the downs. All the in betweens.

Disclaimer: For those that know me, I’m not using the girls first names for safety and privacy reasons. Please consider this when commenting. Thanks.

And so it begins…

Right now, I’m sitting in the middle of a messy house, but the mess can wait. The mess will be here tomorrow…even if I do clean it today. I thought it was about time I started a blog. Somewhere to share my thoughts, insights, whines, recommendations and frustrations…oh, and lists. Lots of lists. I’m a listmaker. Love ’em. Need ’em. Can’t live without ’em. I need a place to vent all those things floating around in my brain…rather than the 20 Facebook posts a day I’ve been known to make. What better time to start than right now. Now that we’ve opened this new chapter in the life of our family – me as a stay-at-home mom. What fun (and stress-relief) to have a record of all the trials and tribulations, laughs and tears, ups and downs of mastering the domestic world.

In addition to working towards my PhD in domestic engineering, we will be venturing into the world of home school before we know it. Yeah, I know my oldest is only 2.5 years old, but just yesterday she was 2.5 months old, and before we know it, she’ll be 25 years old, so really school is just around the corner….and it’s never to early to start educating your children. We do it everyday already…it will just have some structure to it now. Hence, I have begun my research. Just today, the girls and I dragged ourselves out into the stifling hot GA/SC heat and into the book stores where I picked up 3 secondhand books on home schooling. I also picked up one on activities to do with toddlers – just for fun – and I’ve put in bids on several other books on Ebay.

Here’s what I’ve picked up so far:

The Heart of Home Schooling: Teaching & Living What Really Matters by Christopher Klicka

So You’re Thinking About Home Schooling by Lisa Welchel

Getting Started on Home Learning: How and Why to Teach Your Kids at Home by Rebecca Rupp

Things to Do with Toddlers and Twos by Karen Miller

I’m waiting on my Ebay auction for:

Mary Pride’s Complete Guide to Getting Started in Homeschooling

I also can’t wait to buy Before Five in a Row to get started on our preschool studies…but we’ve got time. No point in trying to make my little ones grow up too fast. Let them be little. School will come….then it will go and they will be grown. That’s why these years are so important. That’s why we’ve made this oh-so-important decision – mommy staying home and mommy teaching the kids. It’s so important to teach them everything we can while we can in a way that glorifies God. Here’s praying we do a good job. Thanks for joining us in this adventure. Enjoy the ride.